Almost Halfway (MidLife)

I recently celebrated my 49th birthday (January 31). Most people at this time of their life begin to dread birthdays. I have a slightly different take on it. My thought process is this: I’m in reasonably good shape and take pretty good care of myself. If I continue to work out and eat right, and with all of the advancements in modern medicine, I feel comfortable that I can live to be 100. That means this year represents the last year of the first half of my life. I plan to use it accordingly.

By the time I celebrate 50, I want to feel like I’m the best I’ve ever been. Physically, mentally, spiritually, and emotionally. But, like most people, I rarely feel like I’ve got it all figured out and often struggle with “having my shit together”. So, this means I have a lot of work to do this year.

Like anything else, if you have a goal, you have to have a plan. I’ve been wanting more tattoo work done, so I decided to finally get to work on a chest piece. I’m working with Paul Averette at Bell Rose Tattoo in Daphne, Alabama to design and finish the work I want this year. I also already have an appointment scheduled on my 50th with Frank Lee Roberts, a kick ass photographer for head shots, fitness, and yoga photos. Hopefully these things will keep me focused as I move through 2019.

Let’s be honest, life isn’t easy. No matter how we look on Facebook, Instagram, and other social media, most of us feel like our life isn’t under control. That other people have things figured out and we’re the ones lost and drifting. Here’s the best answer I have. Choose a goal and work for it. Make it challenging enough that it scares you. Do something every day that gets you closer to your goal. If you stumble (and you will) get back up and keep going. While you’re on the way, respect and honor yourself. You are going to feel like everything is moving the wrong way and you’ll never reach your goals. You’ll feel helplessness, hopelessness, and fear. We all do. When that happens, give yourself a little grace. Refocus, reset and get back at it.

Feel free to follow my journey. You may find out that you’re not the only one that feels the way you do. Remember, I write this because I need to read it.